Category: Support

What do you do when you want to give up?

Who are you doing it for? Why do you get up in the morning? Why do you keep going even when you feel like you’re going to die?

This semester has been one of the roughest yet. I often ask myself why I even want to keep going. Why do I want to finish my masters?

Why can’t I just lay down and cry? I thought I had it all figured out. I thought I was through with my trials and tribulations. How do I finish my program

with sanity still intact? “I’m almost there.” I keep telling myself, but am I really almost there?

This semester I have started my internship, working a night job, trying to write papers, and trying to be a good mother and wife. I feel like there’s not

enough of me to go around. Instead of looking at it all at once, I need to look at it one semester, one day, and one hour at a time. I’m overwhelming

myself by looking at the big picture. I need to put myself in survival mode and focus on one task at a time. Then once I realize I’m strong enough to do

this, I need to remember why I even want to do this…Who am I doing this for?

I’m running myself into the ground, but I’m doing it for my daughter and my husband. My biggest wish is to have a life that is peaceful and restful. My

daddy helped me realize that I have to work so hard now in order to not work that hard later on down the line. My family is my driving force in this so I

don’t have to worry about anything. I work hard now in order to enjoy myself and my family later. I just have to remember that when things get tough.

The master’s program isn’t easy, but nothing worth having is easy. I’ll keep on so my daughter and husband can enjoy life with me. I want to make my

family proud.


Dear Best Friends

Dear best friends of a sad person,

As I sit here typing this, I’m trying to think of the words to say to you. I want to say thank you. Sad people need people to stick around. Sad people need friends more than anyone can know. I want to say on behalf of sad people everywhere you are a blessing.

As a friend of a sad person, you may not know a few things. Everyone grieves differently, but we still need you. We may not reach out to you to console us, but we want you to. We cherish those texts you send us to perk us up. We may roll our eyes at your perky attempts to get us out of the house, but we secretly are saying, “Thank you.”

You may not know this, but you’re a godsend. You keeping us occupied and making us laugh, keeps us sane. If not for you, we’d be lonely and contemplating what we mean to people. You make us do things we really don’t want to do like, go to the gym, stop texting that guy, go to work, put make up on. YOU are the reason we keep going. You are the feet to our legs. You keep us grounded and make us move.

So, Thank you for pushing us. Don’t stop coming around. Don’t stop sending goofy pictures of yourself to make us laugh. Don’t stop pulling us out of bed. Don’t stop keeping us going. You are so much of the reason we make it through, and without you the world would be sadder.

Best friends are underappreciated, so thank you. Thank you for being your spunky, sassy, and persistent self. You make the world less crappy. Best friends are needed, so make us take goofy pictures together. Make us go to the gym with you. Make us realize we deserve better. Make us realize that the world is much more than our sadness.


Without you, the world would be lonely and less funny. Don’t change. Don’t go. Just stay, and be you.




The sad bestie


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A Better Ultimate Guide to Letting Go

You’re on the brink of a mental breakdown because it’s happened. People said it wouldn’t, but of course it did. They promised you wouldn’t have to go through this alone, but in all reality you do. Loss isn’t a road trip with your besties, top down, hair blowing in the wind, and music up loud during a summer day. Loss is a long train ride alone in the dark whilst you wait. Wait for what? Exactly. You don’t know what you’re waiting for, but you’re waiting for something; anything.

Loss isn’t a road trip with your besties, top down, hair blowing in the wind, and the music up loud during a summer day.

One of the worst things about the journey off loss is that inevitably you change, you grow twisted and bent, but you grow, and you grow apart from the people who you were closest to. You see it happening before your eyes, but you cannot change it. You might reach out, but if you beg for them to stay beside you then you run the risk of pushing them further away. I’ve learned recently, that the people closest to you before your journey are more than likely going to fall back after your loss. Why? I truly cannot explain why they go, but they do. Maybe they don’t want to make it worse. Maybe we can’t relate to them anymore so we become unapproachable to them. Maybe they were who we needed at that moment and then they weren’t anymore. We could maybe for hours, but it won’t change the fact that they left. Say it with me, “They left, but it’s okay.” How is it okay? Look at it this way, people part ways all of the time and some reconnect, and some don’t. You cannot hold someone hostage. All this would do is cause harm to you internally. You have to find it within yourself to accept the loss of this person and then move on. It might be a long walk through brimstone and fire, but if you can learn to accept that person chose to stop your relationship and actually move on then you’re on the way to fully letting go and really healing.

Letting go, two simple words with such impact. You have to realize that they are no longer a viable option when you need to cry something out. You have to realize they will no longer accept invitations to hang out together. You have to realize they might replace or even eradicate you from their life. They may sometimes say a quick something in passing, but really not want to reconnect. All of this you have to learn to accept, otherwise you’re torturing yourself and searching for answers. They either can’t deal with being around you or don’t want to. Set your mind straight and allow yourself the dignity to stop contacting them, stop asking them to hang out, don’t invite them, and allow yourself to find peace in moving on. Maybe one day you two can reconcile, but today you need to focus on you. Focus on mending your heart after the loss of someone who was there for you when you were dealing with loss yourself. Focus on moving forward and searching for new friends who can help you find the light in your new new normal. Allow yourself to feel the breakup, but also allow yourself to walk forward in grace. Losing one or multiple people during the grief cycle is a tremendous blow to your already broken heart, but it comes with the territory of tragic loss. Not everyone will stay, and not everyone will go, but for the ones who did bow out, love them for who they were when they were who you needed and gracefully walk with your head held high. You are going to make it through this storm like you made it through the others.